The underlying theme that has permeated this culture is the belief in each person, as being a fragmented soul searching for the perfect person who will make them complete. Our culture promotes this type of thinking in movies, tv programs, Internet dating sites, religious ceremonies and reinforced in many family units. How common are phrases such as: My better half, My significant other, You are the wind beneath my wings, The light of my life, You complete me? Those phrases are empty statements of desire, not love.
Because of this campaign-for-love, many couples simply do not have the resources or teachings to come close to “Happily Ever After.” I know people who have been married 25, 38, even 40+ years who are not happy in their marriage but do not feel they have a choice to find fulfillment after so many years with one individual. An oath that no longer fulfills their personal journey has become a chain holding them back. The excuses range from too many entanglements to lack of will.
Regardless, relationship longevity is not based on some fantasy of love. It is based upon respect, responsibility, care and knowledge. Love is the gift you give to another, not the resulting expectation of sharing life with another. You are whole and complete on your own. You do not need anyone else to finish the beautiful creation of life that you are!
If you are not happy in a relationship, figure out why. If the problem can be fixed, Do the Work and fix it. If not, learn your lessons of the past and move on with your life. There is no sin in changing your path. It is your life to live. Forever is closer than you think.
So, on that note, the quote of the day is:
“Everlasting love cannot be obtained, until you understand what it really is.” tc
